Finding Your Right Bra Size

The majority of women wear ill-fitting bras – this fact cannot be overemphasized. Wearing a bra with the right size of both band and cup seems to be a moving target. So many parameters are required for a bra to fit properly. But what is the issue if a bra does not fit?

Consequences of an ill Fitting Bra

• Breasts overflow at the top
• Straps are bound to fall off
• An ill-fitting bra is not aesthetically appealing
• The band rests on the breasts and not on the ribs
• Feeling suffocated if band is too tight
• Breasts may slip under the band if it is loose
• The required support may not be achieved
• Straps dig in – this may lead to headaches, neck-ache and back pain

A bra that does not fit properly may also result in poor blood circulation, an issue that causes a pricking sensation in the fingers.

So, how do you find your right bra size? The easiest way to do it is to find an experienced bra fitting assistant. They will not only inform you about your ideal size but also show you different styles to try and see which ones have a better look. Not all types of bras will suit you.

How to Measure Your Bra Size

If you can’t find a professional bra shop near you, you can still measure yourself by following these steps:

Step 1

Remove your clothing and stand upright

Step 2

Take a flexible tape measure (like a tailor’s measure) and lay it just below your bust where the band is supposed to be. This measure will give you your correct band size. Be sure that you are standing straight and that the tape is horizontal. Make the measurement a little tighter than is done when measuring for other clothing.

The result you get in inches is your band size. If you get an odd number, like 37, you can try bras with a band size 36 and 38. It’s normally better to start with the lower number.

Step 3

To determine your cup size, place the tape measure on the widest part of your bust. This will usually be on the nipples. Once again, take the measure in inches, with the tape parallel to the floor. Should you get an odd number, opt for the lower even number.

If your bust is saggy, you will get a more accurate figure if you already have a good fitting bra on. If you do not have one, pick one which seems to fit. Adjust it for the fit and not looks.

Step 4

Subtract cup size (step 3) from the band size (step 2). Check in the table below to see your cup size.

Bra Size Chart

Common Bra Issues and Troubleshooting

Problem: Breasts spill over at the top

Solution: The bra cups are too small, or the style does not correspond with your bust shape

Problem: Soreness or redness under the bust

Solution: The cups are irritating the skin because they are most likely small

Problem: Breasts are spilling on the sides

Solution: The bra you are wearing has insufficient breast coverage

Problem: Breasts are falling underneath the band

Solution: The band is too long, or the cups are too small, or both

Problem: Your bust has a saggy appearance

Solution: Your bra has insufficient support

Problem: Band is hiked up by the straps at the back

Solution: You are wearing a larger band size

Problem: The straps are digging into the shoulders

Solution: The band size is too big, the straps are too narrow, or both

Where to Buy Good Quality Bras

Although there are many outlets that sell bras both online and offline, Amazon stands out from them all. There is a wide range of styles and brands to choose from. The customer feedback feature enables you to figure out which bras are the best even before you buy. Make the right decision. Find a bra that fits your size.

Do You Wear a Normal Bra Under a Sports Bra?

Wearing a Sports Bra Over a Regular Bra

Whether or not you should wear a regular bra under a sports bra is a controversial issue. In ideal circumstances, you should not wear anything underneath your workout bra. If you buy a properly fitting and good quality bra, you are not supposed to bother wearing it over a normal one.

An athletic Bra is meant to be comfortable as workout underwear. Wearing another bra underneath it makes it uncomfortable. If you feel comfier when you wear a bra with a sports bra, then you’re wearing poor quality or wrong size or style.

Disadvantages of Wearing Clothing Under a Sports Bra

Because a sports bra is supposed to be a workout innerwear, wearing clothing inside results in some difficulties. Below are some of the nuisances that come with the practice:

1. Athletic bras are made to wick away moisture – wearing them over things disables this feature. You therefore become hotter and soggy
2. Some regular bras push the bust closer thereby hindering ventilation
3. When the breasts are held closer, minimizing the figure-8 movement is obstructed
4. Normal bras are made with tough materials which can dig and/pinch under the pressure of compression garments
5. When taking part in exercises involving lifting your hands above the head, the thin straps of normal bras will dig into your shoulders

Athletes in sports bras. As you can see, these bras do not offer sufficient coverage

Can You Wear 2 Sports Bras?

Some ladies argue that two are better than one. The bottom line is that wearing two is better than wearing a regular one inside. But this is bound to make you hotter especially when exercising. The better option is to look for a double layer sports bra.

If your bra fits but is too thin to wear alone, consider layering over rather than under. For instance, you can wear a feminine sports tank or T-shirt over your workout bra. Something else you can try is detachable bra pads. You can even use breast petals or nipple covers.

Why Girls Wear a Sports Bra Over a Normal Bra

There are many reasons why some girls and women are adamant about using a regular bra underneath. Some of them are highlighted below:

• To hide the nipples
• Make breasts appear bigger – most athletic bras tend to have a minimizing effect
• Out of habit – women are used to layering clothes and wearing just one item on the top does not feel okay
• To enhance support – this mostly happens to busty women
• Fashion designers are nowadays making athletic style bras for everyday wear. Some consumers confuse these with workout bras and wear them for exercise, necessitating layering
• The influx of imitation workout bras. Only buy top-rated sports bras
• Some ladies are either unwilling or unable to invest in good quality sports gear
• Some sports bras are somewhat translucent
• Avoid embarrassment in public changing rooms

Though wearing a sports bra alone is the ideal thing, it is by no means the easiest undertaking. The answer to this issue lies in buying a good quality bra in your correct size. Top rated manufacturers of sports bras include;

• Champion
• Under Armour
• Adidas
• Nike
• Victoria’s Secret
• Calvin Klein
• Fruit of the loom
• Fittin
• Glamorise
• Hanes
• Syrokan

You can find all these brands at Amazon.
If you must wear your athletic bra over other bras, here are some points to ponder upon:

1. Choose a bra with no underwire
2. Opt for bras with wider straps
3. Make the bra underneath discreet to avoid embarrassment
4. If you must show any part of a regular bra underneath your sports gear, do it intentionally and be sure you are comfortable with it – avoid scenarios of wardrobe mishaps
5. Avoid pushup bras
6. Consider layering over the bra rather than underneath

Comfort is the key in any outfit. Experimenting with different brands may give you a simple answer. But whether you wear other clothing under your sports bra or not is a decision that you should make with your personal comfort as the first priority.

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Pretending/Faking knowledge:

Pretending/Faking knowledge:

Recently, Karl Taro Greenfeld, a journalist and author, published an op-ed in the New York Times on faking cultural literacy. “It’s never been so easy,” he wrote, “to pretend to know so much without actually knowing anything. We pick topical, relevant bits from Facebook, Twitter or emailed news alerts, and then regurgitate them.”

It’s never been easier to fake knowledge than it is now. You can pop open a Wikipedia page and within a few minutes feign competence. If you do this a few times and you don’t get called out, you come to believe that you’re actually pretty competent in something you really have no clue about.

Such intellectual dishonesty is prohibited in Islam. The prophet ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said, "the one who boasts of receiving what he has not been given is like him who has put on two garments of falsehood." Abu Dawud (with a Sahih chain)

Umar رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه said, “Whoever decorates himself by displaying to the people some characteristics that Allah  knows are contrary to his real characteristics, will be disgraced and dishonoured by Allah.” [Ad-Daaraqutnee, 4/207]

It’s bad not just because it’s dishonest. It’s bad also because we make real, sometimes life altering decisions based on this fakery that can have serious consequences for ourselves and others in Dunya and Akhirah.

Unable to discern between what we know and what we pretend to know, we ultimately become victims of our own laziness and intellectual dishonesty.

In a lecture at the Galileo Symposium in Italy in 1964, the future Nobel Laureate Richard Feynman, said “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.”

One of the reasons for faking knowledge is that the Internet forums and social media have opened up the fields of religious debates and sectarian preaching/poaching to the common people who resort to copy-pasting and faking knowledge to prove their 'authentic' version of Islam and beat their opponents.

Another reason is that we’ve become scared to say, “I don’t know,” lest we be considered less knowledgeable by others. Whether the subject is religious, political or professional, those words are disappearing quickly from our vocabulary. 

We should remember that the Islamic tradition actually encourages even the scholars to say "I don't know" in the presence of other qualified people who can answer a question or in case of a lack of certain knowledge on the issue.

Importance of Saying: "I don't know":

Imam Malik رحمه الله  said:

“The shield of the Scholar is, ‘I do not know’, so if he leaves it down, his attacker will strike him.” [Al-Intiqaa’, p. 37]

Imam Ibn ‘Adbil-Barr رحمه الله  said:

“It is authentically related from Abu Dardaa’ رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه  that ‘I do not know’ is half of knowledge.” [Jaami’ Bayaanil ‘Ilm Wa Fadhlih, 1/54]

‘Adbullaah Ibn Yazeed Ibn Hurmuz رحمه الله  said:

“It is befitting for the scholar that he passes on to his students the statement, ‘I do not know’, until that becomes the foundation that they flee to.”

Abu Bakr as-Sideeq رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه  said:

“Which sky will shade me? And which land will harbour me if I were to speak about the Book of Allah without sound knowledge?” 

Ibn Mas’ood رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه  said:

“O people! Anyone who is questioned about that which he has knowledge of then let him speak, and anyone who does not have knowledge then he should say “Allah knows best“, for certainly from having knowledge is to say “Allah knows best” regarding that which you do not know.”

Imam Ash-Sha’bee was questioned about an issue and he said:

“I am not well-versed in it.” So his companions said to him: “We have become shy for you.” So he said: “But the angels did not become shy when it was said, “…we have no knowledge except what you have taught us…” [2:32] ”

May Allah protect us from all forms of dishonesty. آمين يا رب العالمين 

- A part of this article was taken from Shane Parrish's excellent article "The Era of Fake Knowledge: Why It's Never Been Easier To Fake What You Know" http://observer.com/2014/06/the-era-of-fake-knowledge-why-its-never-been-easier-to-fake-what-you-know/#ixzz3iRWgf5lf 

How to Wear a Maxi Dress

How to Style a Maxi Dress

Ever since the maxi dress came into fashion, it has evolved to become the outfit that every woman is yearning to wear. For each style of mini or midi skirt available, fashion stores make available a similar one in maxi lengths. Though maxi dresses have become more readily available, they are not automatically easy to style. A long dress worn the wrong way can look like a night gown. However, if you wear it the correct way, it can be flattering and fabulous looking.

Some people wrongly think that long dresses can only fit formal occasions. But maxi dresses can be fashioned to become stylish, attractive and feminine. To achieve this, you need to choose a style that best suits your shape, height and weight. You can also configure a diversity of looks with one dress by using different accessories.

A long dress can spice up your looks if you are slim and tall. To bring out the best outcome, opt for halter-neck or thin straps. Spaghetti straps are particularly nice in toned colors. To complete the outfit, Wear a slim belt in accentuating colors . You can also use horizontal stripes if you are very slender.

Plus size ladies will find that a long dress is particularly good at hiding the bulges. If you have big hips, choose a dress with an ornamented bodice, or add accessories like a necklace to bring attention to the top. If you like flashing your arms, avoid thin straps and opt for wide straps, cap sleeves, halter-neck or a sleeveless gown. You may still wear spaghetti straps if you like but they are best if in toned colors.

For petites and the pear shaped, grab a full-length gown with a V-neck and pair with heels. Dark, neutral and nude colors are best for creating the illusion of height. If you want a printed outfit, opt for medium prints. Use shapewear or a slimming belt to conceal your tummy. An ordinary belt at the natural waist or just below the bust also looks good.

Petites and plus size women should go for dress and skirt designs that are form-fitting but not tight. Although solid colors are great, vertical stripes and prints create a taller look. If you want a pleated dress, find one with the pleats sewn in around the hip area. Pleats seem to exaggerate the hips. Sewn in pleats will work well as tummy control panel.

• During the summer, wear a gown that is flowy and in a soft and light fabric, like white. If the air is very hot, put on a cotton slip under the dress to absorb sweat. In such warm weather, light-colored clothes are more appropriate because they reflect heat rather than absorb. A light-weight shirt in a bright color is also fine.
• In winter, long dresses are very useful in hiding layers underneath. You can wear tights, leggings, shorts or skinny jeans to keep you warmer. While choosing a heavy coat or cardigan, also think or wearing a T-shirt inside.

What to Wear Over a Maxi Dress

You can wear almost all types of tops over a maxi dress. These include jackets, cardigans, sweaters and coats. You can button up or leave hanging. If you don’t like the look of the bodice, you may opt to zip-up or wear a tank top or T-shirt under the jacket. This is also a good way of transitioning your dress into a skirt, thereby creating two outfits with the same dress.

Many women love a black or dark maxi dress owing to its ease in combination. Being neutral, it will go well with many colors. You can spice it up by pairing with other neutrals in brighter colors like blue or even prints and stripes. For summer wear, opt for white or other lighter color tops to warm up the look.

Sweaters look good with long gowns if they are not form-fitting. They add a little warmth which may not be sufficient in the winter. They are ideal for spring and fall. During the summer, choose an aerated sweater. Many designs and colors of sweaters that offer cover-up but are dotted with ventilating holes are widely available.

In the winter, long coats and blazers are ideal for making you warm while providing room to hide layers underneath. Tunic tops and other long tops may also be good during such weather. In the warmer months, they can be worn in lighter fabrics to provide a casual and laid-back look.

Strappy or strapless dresses are ideal for summer outdoor events. However, some women may feel overly exposed while others may be sensitive to the scotching sun. In such cases, a denim jacket comes in handy. It covers you but will not make you unnecessarily hot.

A Denim Jacket is a perfect addition to a long dress or skirt. It adds glamour and spices up the outfit. A jeans jacket in black, white or faded blue will go with almost all color maxis. Denim tops are also a casual staple. Boyfriend or men’s blazers are also fine with long gowns.

Jeans Button up Shirts are good if the weather is not too cold. If you want to add extra warmth, you can layer a T-shirt under or over the dress. Other button down shirts are also okay if they look good. If you want to add color to your dress without clashing, choose a shirt or other top in the same hue as dress but in a different shade.

Some special occasion dresses usually come in styles such as strapless or halter-neck. While these are perfect in warm weather, they can be uncomfortable in the winter or evenings. Fur wraps and stoles are good for thin straps, strapless and sleeveless dresses. Some lighter wraps are made only for the purposes of style. They are made of light-weight materials like silk. Other materials like cotton may offer some warmth, depending on how heavy they are woven. Wraps are usually available in colors that will go well with most dresses.

What Shoes to Wear With a Maxi Dress

The best types of shoes to wear with a maxi dress are those that reveal your feet. Due to the dressy nature of long skirts, wearing closed shoes creates the impression of exaggerated coverage. Such footwear may also make people believe you have flawed feet. Perfect shoes include open-toe, strappy and pumps.

For tall women, wedges and flats are cute. Plus sizes, petites and curvy ladies will look better in heels as they add more balance to the overall appearance. Any color of shoes is fabulous if it does not conflict with the style and hue of the dress.

Though boots and booties do not look great with maxi dresses, they are ideal in winter. Layer them with tights, leggings or thick socks (or skinny jeans if you like) for more warmth. For a better look, wear boots that are tall enough to be covered by the hem.

What to Wear Under a Maxi Dress

The best items of underwear for skirts and dresses are those with a full back coverage. G-strings and others like thongs tend to make the dress get stuck between your buttocks, an embarrassment that happens without the wearer’s knowledge.

Some ladies will choose to wear Bike Shorts underneath clothes for a variety of reasons. One issue is that billowy gowns in soft fabrics are bound to go with the wind. While maxis are nowadays mostly sewn out of these feminine materials, it is a good idea to add a skin-tight short inside if you are going to a windy area.

Legwear or hosiery are items that can go under clothes. Tights or leggings are vital in the winter. They add warmth and at the same time increase modesty. Ladies with thin legs can wear the thicker varieties to increase the thickness of their legs. Skinny jeans can also work. These items do not go well with sheer or see-through gowns. They create the illusion of no underwear.

If your dress is see-through, the first option you should consider is wearing a Slip or Half-Slip underneath. They are available in a variety of lengths, colors and fabrics. They prevent abrasion from rough materials like knit wool. Some also designed to double-up as Shapewear and work the same way as a slimming belt or tummy control panel.

Wearing a shorter dress under a maxi is also a good way of solving the issue of showing the silhouette of your legs. These include bodycon or tube dresses. Another alternative is to ask your local seamstress to fix a lining inside the waistband. Although this might not be as an in-built lining, it works the same way.

The choice of bra to wear with your maxi dress depends on the style of the outfit. A strapless dress goes with a strapless bra, while a low-back gown pairs with a bra in the same style. Backless or halter-neck dresses also go with specialized bras. Some of these clothes sometimes come with attached cups which do not offer sufficient support to busty women. While revealing your bra straps does not necessarily look good, some ladies will use the straps for styling some clothes. If this be the case, take the mirror test and see whether you look fine.

How to Accessorize a Maxi Dress

The point of adding ornaments to your dress is to harmonize, balance and bring the spotlight to specific areas. You can take the hue or theme of your maxi dress as the starting point and choose accessories in different shades of that color. For example if your dress is deep blue, it can be accessorized with jewelry and shoes in navy, light and sky blue.

Another issue to consider is the occasion you going to attend. For a wedding, accessorizing is best done with items that are wedding appropriate. For office or business gatherings, opt for business acceptable accessory pieces. Casual dresses can go with almost anything.

For black or neutral maxi dresses, you can jazz up the look with sparkling jewelry and shoes. The idea here is to add color and spice-up the plainness of the outfit. If the attire is too conspicuous, consider wearing simple jewels to achieve the right balance.

A belt is one item that is essential in styling a long dress or skirt. It clearly defines your waist while at the same time differentiates your dress from maternity wear or sleeping gowns. Broad belts are amazing with petite ladies and plus sizes, while thin ones look attractive when worn by slender ladies. You could as well utilize a draw-string tie, if fitted, or a belted jacket.

The style of your clothing and your body shape dictate the correct type of necklace for you. For a halter-neck style outfit, it’s better to wear no necklace. For dresses with wide open shoulders like strapless or spaghetti, a choker necklace is just right. Round necked and button down clothes require long necklaces.

Ladies with thick necks should avoid short necklaces as these tend to appear somewhat obscured. Multiple strand necklaces look good on such women. If you are curvy, avoid very small pieces. For petite ladies, opt for short ones as long necklaces will make you appear shorter. If you have a long slender neck, select a short or collar necklace.

Can You Wear a Maxi Dress to a Wedding?

Although you can wear a maxi dress or skirt to a wedding, it depends on the type of event and where it is held. The style and fabric of your gown is also a determining factor. Generally speaking, backless, strapless, see-through and high slits are not appropriate. Other styles like the sundress are made to be casual.

The best materials for a wedding guest maxi dress are satin, silk and chiffon. Casual looking materials are not acceptable especially if the outfit is too thin. An attached lining or slip worn underneath may solve the situation. If the dress still looks too informal, it can only be suitable for a casual beach or outdoor wedding. Long flowy dresses offer the required don’t-care look appropriate for such occasions.

The whole point of wearing a maxi dress to a wedding is to look stylish but not look like the bride or the bridesmaid. White may therefore not be fit as it may look like the wedding gown especially if it is strapless. If you prefer white or ivory clothing, accessorize with other colors. If you must wear black, add colors to your other clothing to avoid looking like a mourner.

If your maxi dress shows too much of your arms and shoulders, you may be confused with a bridesmaid. In such a case, you should consider throwing a shrug on top. Remember that some weddings have no bridesmaids and other guests might think you are the one.

If you shy away from wearing a maxi dress, may be it’s time you tried one. Do not think that it will not fit you. Try different styles and you’ll finally find what is nice for you. Using these tips will greatly help you in looking good in your long dress whatever style of maxi dress you choose. With a good grasp of how to wear a maxi dress, you will acknowledge the outfit as a fashion staple and not some type of formal uniform.

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Knowledge of Arabic Is Not Sufficient to do Tafsir of Quran- Imam Nawawi

Knowledge of Arabic Is Not Sufficient to do Tafsir of Quran 

One of the greatest Hadith masters and Faqih, Imam Nawawi ra said:

"It is not sufficient to simply know Arabic. Rather, one must also know all that qualified scholars of Tafsir  have said about [a given passage of the Quran], for they may have consensus that the apparent [meaning of a verse, for example,] is something to be disregarded and that what is intended is a specific or implied meaning, or something else contrary to the obvious. Likewise, if a phrase has different meanings and it is known that one of those meanings is intended, one then explicates each occurrence [of the phrase] that comes [separately].

All of the foregoing [depicts] the offering of Tafsir by way of [uninformed] opinion, and this is unlawful.

And God knows best."

Source: Etiquette With the Quran, p99. 

THE CONCEPT OF MODERATION IN ISLAM

THE CONCEPT OF MODERATION IN ISLAM 

Today, the word ‘moderation’ has become very common, and is used by people for many things. Sometimes, it is used for that which is good, and at times, it is used for that which is bad. For example, you may hear a doctor saying to a patient, ‘If you are to consume intoxicants, then do so in moderation’. You may also listen to one saying to another, ‘You should not smoke. However, if you wish to do so, then smoke in moderation’. What is strange in both these statements (which we often hear) is that though these vices are harmful and destructive to one’s health, yet, the word moderation is used to imply something that is good (which in reality is not so). 

In contrast to this, we have many instances where the word (moderation) is used in the correct places and brings about a good message. For example, we often hear that one must be moderate in eating, sleeping, exercising and even working. There are many other examples which show that the usage of the word moderation brings about a good meaning and message. 

With this brief explanation, the question that comes to mind is, how does Islam view the concept of moderation? Is it accommodated in Islam? And if it is accepted, then the question which needs answering is- What does ‘being moderate’ means in Islam? 

To get a clear understanding of this, we must first know that moderation basically means ‘to avoid the extreme’. So, when one keeps away from going to the extreme, then it will be said that he has adopted moderation. Extreme here, means the act of going beyond the normal or acceptable limit. It brings about an action which is done in a manner that one departs from the usual and traditional teachings. 

Based on this understanding, it will be clearly seen that Islam is in favour of moderation. It does not only accept it, but it encourages its followers to adopt the moderate path. While doing so, it discourages, and at times, prohibits one from going to the extreme, in words, thoughts or actions. Even while speaking about the Ummah (nation) of the Muslims in the Holy Quran, Allah says, ‘And thus We have made you a moderate Ummah (nation), so that you should be witnesses over the people, and the Messenger a witness over you’. (Surah Al Baqarah verse 143) 

Here, the Muslim Ummah has been characterized with the quality of being ‘moderate’ or justly balanced. By highlighting this outstanding distinction of the Muslim nation, it means that the followers of Islam must strive to adopt the path of ‘moderation’, so that this quality can always be seen in them. But what does it mean to be moderate? Does it mean that one can go against the teachings of the Holy Quran (which he finds too difficult) and say that he is being moderate? Does it mean that one can go against the teachings of the Holy Prophet (SA) (thinking that these are outdated) and say that he is being a moderate Muslim? 

No! Obviously not! In fact, no sensible, true and sincere Muslim would think of adopting such methods in trying to be moderate. Moderation does not mean to go against the teachings of Islam in the name of Modernism. It also does not mean to give a new interpretation to the laws of Islam in order to satisfy one’s desires. It does not mean to practice Islam conveniently, and leave it out when one thinks that it does not suit his time and place. 

Instead, moderation means to follow all the teachings of Islam, and to practice them in accordance to the way it was given, without going beyond the limits which have been set by Allah and His Messenger (SA). A Muslim believes that Islam is complete and perfect in all its teachings. The laws given in the Holy Quran are exactly what Allah wanted for the believers. In a similar manner, the teachings of the Holy Prophet (SA) are in accordance to what has been endorsed by Allah and made as part of the teachings of Islam. It is in this regard, Allah has ordered all Muslims to obey and follow the Prophet (SA). 

The completion and perfection of Islam means that whatever constitutes its teaching is exactly what a Muslim is required to do, as part of his duty to Allah. Violation of these laws and teachings amount to sins and transgression, and does not amount to ‘moderation’. Hence, with respect to the laws of Salaah, Fasting, Zakaat and Hajj, one must obey these as they have been given without compromise. Similarly, with respect to the laws of dress and social interaction which tell a Muslim about hijab and purdah, and the avoidance of intermingling of the sexes, are teachings which must be followed, since they have been clearly given in the Holy Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet (SA). Violation of these (teachings) under the guise of ‘moderation’ is nothing but folly. 

In this way, a Muslim is required to be fully obedient to Allah and His Messenger (SA), and must abstain from disobedience. About this Allah says, ‘O you who believe! Obey Allah and His Messenger, and turn not away from Him while you are hearing. And be not like those who say, ‘We have heard’, but they hear not. Verily, the worst living creatures in the sight of Allah are the deaf and the dumb, who understand not’. (Surah Al Anfaal (8) verse 20) 

Like this, there are countless verses in which Muslims are repeatedly commanded to obey Allah and His Messenger, and have been strictly prohibited from disobedience to them. It is imperative that we understand that the commandments of Allah and the teachings of the Prophet (SA) are not only connected to our ritual acts of worship and purification. But, they are also connected to every aspect of our lives. In matters regarding marriage, divorce, custody of children, maintenance, birth, death, commerce and labour – Islam has given comprehensive teachings. In a similar manner, sufficient teachings have been given with respect to the manner of our speech, conduct, dress, interaction with others, treatment to family members and relatives, kindness to neighbours and strangers and helping the poor and needy. These teachings have been given to us so that we may have a complete and perfect way of life. 

Each Muslim is required to accept these teachings whole-heartedly, without any reservation or hesitance. Allah commands the Muslims in the Holy Quran by saying, ‘O you who believe! Enter into Islam whole heartedly, and follow not the footsteps of satan. Verily, he is to you an open enemy’. (Surah Al Baqarah verse 208) 

In this verse, all Muslims have been ordered by Allah to enter Islam completely. They have been strictly prohibited from following the promptings of satan, since he is the one who incites a Muslim to compromise and ‘leave-out’ the teachings of Islam. While explaining this verse of the Holy Quran, the commentators have stated, ‘No Muslim shall be deserving of calling himself a Muslim, unless he accepts all Islamic injunctions truly and sincerely, from the deep recesses of his heart, irrespective of the department of life they belong to, irrespective of whether they concern the outward physique of the body or the heart and the mind. 

This verse holds a stern warning to those who have got Islam all tied up with Masjid (Mosque) and Ibadah (the performance of acts of prescribed prayer), while they neglect injunctions relating to social life, business and personal dealings, as if they were no part of Islam’. (Ma’ariful Quran vol.1 pg. 516) 

The gist of the above verse (and its explanation) is that every Muslim is required to turn to Islam whole-heartedly, with full submission and compliance. There should not be an iota of doubt or wavering in the heart of any believer regarding the truth, soundness and authenticity of all the teachings of Islam which have reached him through the process of continuous transmission from the time of the Prophet (SA) until today. There must be total acceptance, and the sincere willingness to adhere to these teachings. There is no room for compromise, non-acceptance, uncertainty or challenge in this regard. 

As for moderation in Islam, this simply means that one must not be extreme in the teachings which Allah has given in Islam. He must not go beyond that which he is required to do, causing harm to himself and others. As for that which a Muslim must do, then he/she must do it, since it is a requirement in Islam. For example, in the Holy Quran, Allah has exhorted and encouraged the believers to spend their wealth in His cause. At the same time, one should not give away all his wealth to the extent that he does not have anything to live on. This however, does not mean that one becomes a miser or a stingy person. While establishing the perfect balance of moderation in this respect, Allah revealed the following verse, ‘And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach (like a spendthrift), so that you become blameworthy and in severe poverty’. (Surah Al Isra (17) verse 29) 

This is a wonderful verse that explains the concept of moderation in Islam. It tells us that although Allah wants a person to spend in His cause, He does not want him to spend everything to the extent that he falls in poverty. Similarly, He does not want a person to become stingy by not spending at all. So, the moderate way is to spend some (wealth) in good causes, and keep some for one’s needs and necessities. Allah does not want a person to go to the extreme of spending everything, nor does He want a person to go to the opposite extreme of keeping everything (on account of stinginess). 

Similar to this, is the case of the companion of the Prophet (SA), Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqas (RA). When he was about to die, he wanted to give all his money in charity for the sake of Allah. However, the Prophet (SA) stopped him from doing so, and requested him to give some of it in charity while leaving some in inheritance for his family members. On this occasion, the Prophet (SA) said to him, ‘It is better that you leave your family members in sufficiency than you leave them in want, begging from others’. (Bukhari) 

Here, the Prophet (SA) taught him the middle course, or moderation, so that he will be well-balanced in his spending. On one hand, he should not spend everything in charity while depriving his family members, and on the other hand, he should not give everything to his family members while depriving himself from the blessings of charity. Giving some here, and some there, was the ideal way. It is safe from the two extremes, and this is moderation. 

In this way, there are many other examples which can be quoted from the Holy Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet (SA) to show how the teaching of moderation was implemented and practiced. Therefore, the moderation which some Muslims seek has already been given in Islam. In fact, the beautiful teachings of Islam have already incorporated the aspect of moderation, and so, there is no need to look outside the teachings of Islam for moderation. 

Whatever is out of Islam is indeed ‘out of Islam’, and hence, practicing upon it would not amount to practicing Islam. Instead, it will be considered as practicing on one’s opinions, carnal desires and fancies. Islam is one way of life; it is the religion of Allah, and therefore it will never be adulterated and adjusted to suit the likings of people. 
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What is a Maxi Dress?

Maxi Dress Definition

Maxi dresses are long gowns that hit somewhere from the ankles to the floor. In the past, maxi dresses were treated as informal attire. This notion has changed over the years to make maxis the most adored formal outfits. Modern styles are mostly fitted at the waist and flowy at the hem.

In recent years, fashion designers have used soft feminine materials to accommodate long gowns into catwalks around the world. The creation of different styles of maxi dresses has made it possible for women to wear them anywhere from the beach to parties and so forth. Popular trends include halter-neck, floral, sleeveless and backless.

How Should a Maxi Dress Fit?

A maxi dress or skirt should feel comfortable and look good from your own perspective. But you should also receive complements from your peers when you wear it. In order to look elegant in a long gown, you must choose the best size and style. Secondly, you must know how to style and accessorize it.

Proper length is a must. Here are points to ponder:

• Dragging your hem on the floor will make it wear out faster
• If it falls way above your ankle, it is not a maxi
• A pencil style that is too long will make it harder to walk and can also make you fall
• If it’s too long for your flats, style it with wedges or heels
• Avoid shoes that cover the uppers of your feet

Who Can Wear a Maxi Dress?

Every woman or girl can wear a Maxi dress. There are many ways of styling a maxi to suit any body type for a variety of events. You can take it to the beach, and still style it for a wedding or work. Nowadays, some women even wear it as maternity attire.

Different colors of maxis create dissimilar looks and require custom pairing. Most women choose solids as they go with any color shoes. They also make you appear taller, just like a skirt suit.

Colorful and printed maxi dresses and skirts look super cute in warm weather. Floral prints are probably the most popular summer styles. Stripes are flattering as well. However, you should take care with striped clothes as they can create a look that you don’t intend.

Can Short People Wear Maxi Dresses?

Most dressmakers design clothes for the average body size. They seem to forget shorter ladies. Although you can still find petite maxi dresses, here are some points you need to consider:

• When shopping online, opt for stores that have petite sections. The clothes fit better than those adjusted later
• Look for a good tailor in your area. Occasionally, you may find a dress or other outfit that is too good to reject, but your size is not available. Adjusting a hem is always a good investment.
• Some dresses are easily adjusted simply by using a belt
• Consider wearing heels. If they are too much for you, opt for wedges
• Outfits in horizontal stripes make you look taller

Why a Maxi Dress?

Due to its light-weight nature, a maxi outfit is incredibly versatile. You can dress it down for the summer, or hide layers underneath for the winter. For ladies with flawed legs, long dresses are forgiving.

You can wear it casually with flip flops or be stylish in heels. You can also choose a sheer style for the beach or pool, or opaque for a formal occasion. With the best choices, you can wear a maxi dress for virtually any event. Though these fashion staples seem to look better on some ladies, designers say there is a maxi dress for any body type.

Maxi Dress Styles

Maxi dresses come in a variety of styles. Not all styles will fit all accessions. While some are appropriate for work or formal events, others will be suitable only for a casual day or beach wear.

• Halter Neck
• Backless
• Sheer
• Strapless
• Sleeveless
• Long Sleeve
• Short Sleeve

A comfy and stylish outfit is a must for every woman. To most women, a flowy and modest outfit is a huge asset. Due to their versatility and femininity, Maxi Dresses are some of the most admired and fashionable items of clothing in many areas around the world.

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